Sitting outside a court house on ‘domestic violence day’ I spoke to a lovely female police officer, I say that because I’ve not always had the best intentions with their kind. Not for lack of me being respectful, more them assuming we are all the same. Now she told me that it is becoming so jam packed they are trying to find another day for the overflow. I asked her if she thinks there is an increase in cases but her opinion was that it’s just being reported more. Once a taboo subject is now more widely spoken about. I personally can attest to the stigma, the blame and the shame being alive and well today.
How about childhood sexual abuse? I assume it would be difficult to determine the rates due to its low reporting. I remember reading somewhere that the rate of prisoners that had been sexually abused was upward of 70%. One wonders how intimate relationships and other acts of sexual deviancy don’t occur more often in prisons. Sexual arousal and ‘sex’ in general are a primal animal instinct that we cannot turn off. If you put grown men surrounded by other grown men in a cage what do you expect?
So how far is too far when children are involved? Ok further back than that let’s say your child’s toys? What would you do if you received from someone pictures of their penis on your child’s toys? Not in a weird way I have been told but in a funny playful way? Is there anything funny about an adults genitalia on something your child plays with? Excuse the language but fuck no! It absolutely isn’t funny. Apparently the answer to this question so far from family members, police and the list goes on is ‘how do we know it’s his penis?’. My next question is ‘how is that the issue? There is someone’s penis on my sons toys! If I’m wrong about who it is then I’m just a horrible person making up stories about people but it remains that someone’s penis is on my sons toys!’.
Where to go with this information then if I’m not being herd? The almighty governing body that lets our children down time and time again I guess!!
Enjoy your day!!
DIARIES FROM DOMESTIC VIOLENCE 