DIARIES FROM DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

Why is it that they are nice and then they’re not?

Why do men these days seem to be more interested in the sleazy games and trickery than they do about any real connection with a woman?

What if you suddenly met one that didn’t tell you what you wanted to hear or at least what they thought you wanted to hear? One that for no reason just helped you out. It didn’t come with a ‘now you’ve got an (insert name) in your life’ trying to have you believe that meant suddenly you could breathe easy but in reality the moment you ask for a hand, they’ve dropped off the face of the earth. One that treated you with respect and was kind.

It begs the question, do most men in 2018 enjoy seeking out women and intentionally taking them for a ride?

Men within my age group, mid 30’s were the product of mother’s who raised their children a lot different to previous generations. The term helicopter parenting was coined and was often accompanied by a spree of ‘irrational exuberance’ potentially ruining men and woman within my age group. One other significant difference was the dot-com bubble we grew up within. Our world was exponentially broadened and the humble school project went from information once only sourced through printed media and non fiction platforms such as the humble encyclopedia to an endless wealth of knowledge and experiences. Pornography went from a once underground, black label paperback or local sex shop to right in our faces, no filters and no ID required. All it takes now is nothing more than the click of a mouse to access an endless catalog of depraved material. You can also ask a question and if you look hard enough, you can find a website that not only provides you with the answers you are looking for but also a supportive community to become a part so that you now believe any and every possible outcome to be true.

Are we a generation of spoiled brats, over stimulated, over sexed and totally in love with ourselves? From day one we have been told and shown that we are the most important and while everyone is standing around us waiting to see what we will do next we are also learning that the other people around us are not equal in comparison and do not deserve the same life experiences and respect we think we deserve?

So he seemed polite and funny. I quickly realized he too shares the same affliction as I do. Some call it foot in mouth but I call it just being brave enough to tell the masses what you think and want out of this life. Not be made up of, one part half truth because it sounds good and the other part Facebook photos tainted by filters until we are almost unrecognizable.

He says he will come back but only time will tell. Will this be the case or failure simply like others before who I believe in the moment meant what they were saying, so I’m not suggesting it’s all been an elaborate lie. They just lacked the ability to follow through due to there short attention spans and an insight grasping a larger picture. I fear this will only lead them into perpetual loneliness which may not be realized until too late.

So am I just being young, dumb and full of….. hope? Or have I found my morally outdated encyclopedia salesman who also doesn’t seem to fit into todays preconceived notion of acceptable behavior? Between Facebook and the list of social media platforms it’s easy to see why self consumption is a reasonable outcome when all of these elements are combined.

Is there any hope for the children we will go into raise or does this breed a whole new generation of something yet to be seen?

Now I’m pretty sure he will read this as I am about to send him a link. Thank you for coming into my life and not being a dick for lack of better words. I really do hope to see you again but if not know your venerability and kindness did not go unnoticed. You are both beautiful inside and out so remember ‘be who you are and say how you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind’. Also you’re welcome for the photos lol.

Lots of love

Carly XoXo