This one is slightly born out of anger. There are certain people I could name here but I won’t. For you I just want to say thank you. Thank you for making the fact that I totally give up on relationships a reality.
Whatever happened to the saying “Treat people the way you want to be treated?”. It’s not too hard to ask is it? Taking the past almost year onto account you have totally tested this idea for me. It seems that it should be changed to,
“Treat me better than I treat you and when I get caught out, i’m gonna destroy your entire life as you know it and not care one bit as the tears stream down your face.
I’m gonna smash everything and anything in sight, especially if you own it and make you pay for the very things I feel guilty about.
When the dust settles, I’m gonna shame you because I am worth more than you in the end”.
They say we teach people how to treat us. In a way I think that is true. The issue is we are not children here anymore and you have learnt a lot of lessons even before I came along. Lessons it seems are too hard to unlearn for some of us.
Within my own life at least, this is the case for two people in particular. In the end it is not my role in life to put you first and be understanding of shitty behaviour all the time.
For you both tonight I have a new lesson it seems………
For the first. How time passes us so quickly it would seem. Our journey began almost a year ago and in the end is nothing more than a waste of my time. Time away from my son which I might add I don’t take very lightly, so I very unsenserilly apologise for any backlash or punishment you may have endured as a result of wasting that precious time. The funny thing is I am not a malicious person so had you of actually taken responsibility for your actions, the help offered to you would have been just that. Minus any headaches that came along with it but that’s the trouble with biting the hand that feeds you…… Sometimes it bites back. I pride myself on the saying “A woman scorned” and will not apologise for that. Let’s face it though it’s one of the things that made you so drawn to me in the beginning wasn’t it? Had you of realised, despite any mistakes that all I ever wanted for you was what I want for myself in the end anyway. What is that? A chance for someone to see I deserve a place in my sons life. While you still haven’t got it yet, not for lack of trying to get that through to you, but that journey ended for us the day before my sons 9th birthday, 22nd October 2019. I remember the following day was a particularly tough one for me and considering all that I had done for you I think what I was asking for was the least you could have done. You had the power to save the whole thing that day. I asked you if you were telling me the truth and you said yes. I told you if that was true then I would answer the phone the following day. You chose to lie. Sadly in hindsight you have let me down every single time I needed you. Sadly when I consider the entire time we spent together was nothing more than a lie and a joke to you. Thank you for your ‘help’. While mine came from a good place yours comes from a place to hurt or punish me it seems? Unfortunately I would have to have some sort of feeling left for you for that to be effective so again you lose the battle that no one wins.s
To the second person. This person came into my life the following day, my sons birthday. Thank you for that day. You made what was one of the worst days bearable. Considering this person was only supposed to be a means to punish the first one, you quickly went from just being a fling to something a whole lot more. I often say to you that on occasions you nail it. You come out of left field and say or do something even better than I could have come up with to fix the situation. On other occasions you don’t. I sometimes think that if we were in fact as Plato writes ‘one’. Male and female as one being that when we were struck out by Zeus and split into two that you might possibly be my other half. There’s something in the way you cuddle that feels like we may have been cut from the same person because you seem to fit better than anyone has ever before. We will always have a little star named ‘Cuddles’ and you will always be the first thing I think of when I look up at the nights sky.
In the interest of having my own back tonight I need to stop being so understanding all the time. While you both have obviously been taught in the past that you can get away with anything you want.
I am here to teach you another one…….
“I am worth something. I am worth a whole lot in fact. No you can’t have your cake and eat it too. That is at least when it comes to me. I am not perfect and I make mistakes but as long as the good outweighs the bad it’s worth it. Currently it’s not worth it for me but in the end I am worth it you just refuse to see it. That’s what makes me different. That’s what makes me special. That’s what makes me worth a whole lot more than the others who let you get away with bullshit. I wish you the best but this is not my best and I would rather be unhappy alone than unhappy with someone else”.
I am a mother of one, artist and blogger from Australia. I write children’s books and want to introduce awareness education for children in all schools. This is my journey from domestic violence and beyond. Where it will end up is anyone's guess. Share in my story....
Carly,
Why is it that we always realize how wrong we were and how much damage we caused when it’s already too late? Is there some fault in our stars that made us that way?
I know that an apology that comes too late is worthless, but I have to say it anyway. That’s the least I can do to show you my regret and my love.
I have to ease my mind and my soul, and I hope you will see it in these sincere words that I’m about to write.
I can’t believe how time flies. Only 2 months ago you were in my arms. I was waking up next to you, and your beautiful smile was the first thing I saw in the morning. Now, there is just emptiness in my heart.
And every morning, reality strikes me, you are no longer mine I am no longer yours. We lost each other, and we might not find our way back again. And I have no one to blame but myself.
We both made mistakes, that’s true, but mine was bigger. I lost someone so special and unique, and I don’t know if I’ll ever forgive myself.
I was a fool for letting you go, for not fighting harder to keep you beside me. I was an immature idiot who was too afraid to really feel and let you in.
You know how they say be careful what you wish for it might come true? I guess it came true for me. I am alone, free, uncommitted and still, I am far from happy. To be honest, I am miserable without you.
I am so sorry I couldn’t pull my shit together back then. I am sorry I couldn’t confront my fears. All would be different if I could of seen this before it was to late..
You will never guess what I miss the most.
I miss your hugs. I never really appreciated them, but they made me feel incredible. It was like you knew all these different types of hugs and which one was best for me at any certain moment.
I miss the sound of your voice.
To be honest, I miss all of you more and more as each day passes. You could sense things and feel my mood altering even when I wouldn’t say anything. You knew when to speak and then just be there with me in silence.
You knew me better than I knew myself. I am sorry I didn’t know how to value that.
I am sorry that I didn’t tell you the truth from the start, you deserved that and so much better from me.
Now I know that it would have been better if I had been honest. I can’t even imagine how you felt when you found out. You would have felt disappointed and betrayed.
I really regret every selfish hurtful thing I done It was unnecessary, and each time, was one more thing that pushed us away from one another.
My biggest mistake and the thing I am most sorry for is that I didn’t make enough efforts.
You were always the one who was giving more and trying harder. I was the one who took all that for granted. I was the one who thought that you will keep welcoming me back and forgiving me no matter what I did.
I never counted on the fact that you would be fed up with me and my crappy behavior. I lied to you so many times, and you finally decided you wouldn’t put up with it anymore. I made so many promises, and I broke most of them.
I was never there when you needed me. I couldn’t be, or better said, I didn’t know how to be. I would get caught up in something less important, and I would forget about the fact that you needed me.
I said some really hurtful things I didn’t mean. I can’t think straight when I am angry. And every time I would hear my voice uttering those nasty sentences, I would instantly regret it.
But by then, it was already too late. I couldn’t take the words back, and I couldn’t lessen the pain I caused you.
I am sorry I wasn’t the man you deserved.
You have all the qualities of a good woman, and you deserved better than all that I gave you. That’s why I wish I could turn back time and do everything differently.
I am sorry I hurt you. It was never my intention. Half of the things I did, did without thinking. I wasn’t aware of my mistakes and how they affected you until I was left alone with my thoughts, until sadness knocked me down, until I lost you.
I am sorry for every tear that rolled down your cheeks because of me. I am paying for each and every one of them now.
(My karma caught up with me.)
I am sorry that these words probably won’t be enough for you to forgive me,
All in all, maybe I am being selfish again as I was so many times in the past.
But I can’t help myself. I still think about you every day. And my heart aches at the pain it feels.
I hope you will find it in your heart to forgive me even if you don’t take me back. I hope I will forgive myself for being so stupid to lose the love of my life.
But most of all, I hope you will be happy. You deserve to be. You deserve the world.
In the end, I want to say “I love you”. Those three little words I had so much trouble actually showing you are what’s consuming me now. Deep down, I know I will love you forever, even if it is from afar.
Love always.
Mat.
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